Sunday, October 07, 2007

Conversations with CFS

So, you wait for 2-3 weeks for a post and then you get 4! Be sure to read the other posts below. All of these things float around in my head everyday, but I don’t always have time to get them down. This post is an update.

In “What’s Happening Now,” I told you that we sent in an application to Christian Family Services in Fort Mill. That was a Monday. On Tuesday I got a call from CFS letting us know that they got our application and were “thrilled” to be working with us! I talked to the administrator of the agency for 40 minutes. We had the most pleasant conversation and hashed through some details so that we can get our homestudy started. It turns out that the director of the agency goes to the parent church that planted our church!

Basically, we’ve expressed an interest in adopting an infant of any race or gender. Because we are willing to adopt an African American or Bi-racial child, we are considered to be pursuing a “special needs” adoption. This lowers our cost and requirements significantly. This also means that we will VERY likely have a baby within one year from the date the homestudy is complete!

The homestudy takes about two months, so it should be completed by the end of November or early December. During that time we will be putting together a portfolio (or scrapbook) about our family. Once we have been proven competent enough to be parents, the agency will begin showing our portfolio to birth moms. The agency will show the portfolios of all adoptive couples who are willing to take the kind of child being born. The birth mom then selects the parents of her child based on what she sees in the portfolios. At that point, the agency calls the adoptive couple selected and describes the expected child. They will explain any medical problems the child may be predisposed to according to family history, the race and gender of the child. The adoptive couple then has 24 hours to pray and make a decision about whether or not this is the child for them.

We requested the social worker that each of us has spoken to on previous occasions to work our case. Last week we were notified that she has accepted our case! She is very kind and helpful, so we are happy that we will get to work with her.

So, this is pretty exciting! I’ve been saying, “Andy, we’re going to be parents!” and “I’m gonna be a mama!” I can’t believe it!!


Anonymous said...

This is so exciting!!! There are a lot of people praying for this mom and baby, God has already picked your child.I have faith that this will be a smooth, peaceful transition. God is so good, I am so excited..... Your going to be a mama!!!
I love you, Heather Shelton

David M. Staples said...

Congratulations. This is so exciting. I do find the comment "prove you to be competent parents" to be quite funny. How exactly do they do that? I have a very strong feeling that I would fail that particular evaluation.

medschoolmommy said...

Yeah!!! I am so thrilled for you guys that things are moving forward! The kids are going to be beside themselves with excitement at having a cousin! I can't wait to see that precious baby in your arms. Congratulations, Mommy!

Anonymous said...

It's like you peed on the stick and you finally see the two blue lines!!! YIPPEE!! I am so excited that this is full-blown in the works. You, a mommy, what could be more perfect?! Love ya girl!
=)nikki godfrey-hill