Sunday, September 23, 2007

What's Happening Now

So, it’s been over a month since I’ve posted. Thank you all for asking about us and for praying for us. I am always humbled to know that people pray for us; many of you do everyday. You people are amazing!

Honestly, the reason I haven’t posted is because I’ve dreaded saying that nothing has changed. It’s one thing to know that myself, but to say it out loud to everyone else is another thing. BUT, tonight I can say we have made a move!

Things have been incredibly busy, as we knew they would. But, last week I called the Department of Social Services (DSS) and left a message asking about getting a homestudy started. I also called the same social worker (H.B.) that Andy talked to back in August, just to ask her some questions. She was incredibly nice and helpful.

I told her my concerns about independent/private adoption (where you find your own birthmother and go to the lawyer with her to draw up the papers). In many private arrangements, the adoptive couple pays whatever living expenses the birthmother needs: rent, utilities, gas, groceries, medical, etc. Knowing that many of these types of adoptions fall through and that there is a possibility for adoption fraud (the birthmother needs someone to pay her bills and makes an adoption plan knowing all along that she doesn’t plan to finalize), we have not progressed for fear that we would not be able to move ahead after an “interrupted” adoption. H.B. asked if we had thought about an agency adoption. I told her we’d thought about Christian Family Services (CFS) in Ft. Mill. She said they had a great reputation. She said that part of their ministry was to pay the living expenses for the birthmothers and only expect reimbursement from the adoptive couple upon finalization of the adoption. So, we would not be expected to pay living expenses up front, nor would be have to pay in the case of an interrupted adoption. That’s very helpful information!

After four days of no response from DSS, I called again. The number at which I left a message earlier in the week had been disconnected. I found it odd that the phone number of a government agency would be disconnected.

We’ve talked a lot about whether we need to do a State adoption of a special needs child. Neither of us has felt a “calling” in that direction. We’re open to it. We’ve prayed about it. But, we’ve had no inclination that we definitely need to pursue it. Christian Family Services places mostly infants, but on occasion they place older children and children with special needs as well. So, we figured if we go through them, we would still have all of our options open should God speak to us about that in the process.

Then there’s Guatemala. About a month ago a lady who went on the mission trip with us called to tell me that the director of the ministry in Guatemala bought an orphanage. My heart fluttered. It took me back to the Marriott where all the gringos were with their Guatemalan babies. As it turns out, there are 27 infants under the age of one at the orphanage.

So, Friday night Andy and I filled out an application for CFS. We expressed interest in doing a domestic and international homestudy. We said we were willing to adopt a “special needs” child (which could be a child of a minority race, an older child, or a child with other special needs) from our own country or another country. We’ve left all of our options open. We put the stamp on it tonight!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I've been checking your blog every few days. I am so glad to see you've posted again. Even happier to hear that things are beginning to progress. You will be in my prayers. I know that ANY child who is lucky enough to have you both as parents will be incredibly LUCKY.

Laura Belcher

Anonymous said...

I am also glad to see back to blogging. two things stand out for me in reading your latest blog. I would recommend that you find a support group to join, or an small group that can help you when you are going through a rough time. Progress is not only in phyical terms but emotional as well. It is through these rough times that you will see the "face of GOD" and feel his presence with you as you struggle with this issue. Being with a group will help you as some will be ahead of you, having already gone through it, and some behind you that you can be a support to. My prayers continue to be with both of you. And glad you are back to blogging.

Rachel said...

I think it's really cool that you are looking into special needs children.
-Rachel

Anonymous said...

I am praying for you! Your blog was shared with me after a Bible study on prayer. In the study, we were talking about waiting on God. An example we discussed was Hannah's prayers to God to have a son that went unanswered for quite sometime. But then, Hannah's prayer found in 1Samuel 1:11 to have a son and give him to the Lord was finally answered. The book "The Praying Life" by Jennifer K. Dean says this..."Why does this prayer seem to touch the heart of God, when her many prayers before seemed not to? The difference lies not in the prayer, but in the woman. From the beginning of her ordeal, Hannah was ready to be a mother of a son. Now she is ready to be the mother of a prophet. God has done His mighty work. God's heart and Hannah's heart are a perfect match. The miracle is not in the physical manifestation of the glory of God when barren Hannah bore a son; the miracle is in the heart of Hannah, now forever stamped with the character of God." God is stamping YOU with His character! You and your journey are God's miracle! Thank you for transforming right before our very eyes through your blog.

Nancy Swicegood